By Hammad Anwar
Okay this post is totally random and totally not inter related with each other. These are different things I hear people mostly say around so I thought why not try being sounding smart and write something totally random and not making any particular sense. You may or may not agree but that`s the beauty of it, that is how we all support each other and become strength of each other. So these are some random issues, some random suggestions, in short everything is nothing but random.
Starting with a common problem which girls in our country face i.e. they want to become a professional while the family is against it and especially when it comes to a middle class family in some relative less modern cities of the country. I can only say that well first of all study is not only to get a good job. Many of them get degrees which many boys are not able to complete in cities like Lahore with many examples around me from my circles as well. It is really good that you want to earn and behave like professional but the issue is not because of you, it is about the city where there aren’t many good jobs and especially when it comes to girls too. But this doesn’t mean you wasted your study and time and energy, who knows in future it, would help you in getting a good job. There is no confirmation that you will remain here your current city forever and once you are out of there then you can do whatever you want.
Very often we see that as a person, people have degraded and disrespected themselves more than anyone else and you fall for emotional blackmailing. Let people do whatever they do and whatever they want to do and if someone is wrong and you know why he is, then he/she is. There is no reason to blame yourself for that, no matter what they say you should learn to stay firm on your stance i.e. if you know you are right, not from heart only but from brain too. And if they come up with lame excuses, just make yourself remember that you know why you are right. And think positive, it’s hard, and may be most of times I don’t think positive either but we can try.
At the end of the day no matter whatever whoever says including your family, it is your life and nobody honestly cares. Sometimes we have to take a stance for ourselves, and let’s face it in the future most of the wont be there with you, we all get settled at different places and cities and they wouldn’t be bothered then.
Rest to error is human, whether its religion or world, unless we are ready to make mistakes, we can’t learn, everyone makes mistake and then asks for forgiveness. It’s okay to make mistakes, nothing wrong. If you make mistake and you are willing to learn from it in future, then it doesn’t matter. It’s fine. I make mistakes everyday which I regret I shouldn’t have made but they just happen. I hurt people who I love the most, I say so many things to them which I know I shouldn’t have said but then I try not to do it again.
And stop being in so many complexes about yourself that you don’t have any quality, you don’t fulfil your obligations, we all live in this world and everyone is like this. It’s not like that you are the only one and as you will see everyone moves on with their lives. Consistency is good and you can achieve that if you try, like if at the end of mail you decide few things and stick to them and achieve your targets it means you did achieve consistency. The world is indifferent and insincere, we all live in lies and we lie to each other all the time and even to ourselves. You want to achieve consistency, start with small targets, like you will do a walk everyday and then try to follow it no matter whatever happens. Initially you will face a lot of difficulties but eventually you`ll see small steps like these would lead you to a consistent desire for it.
And one of the reasons for constant worries and negativity is the health; try to keep your body healthy as it keeps the head healthy too. Make a diet plan and follow it no matter whatever happens. You will not only achieve good health but consistency, like if you are reading something and light goes then don’t read in dim light, lay down, sleep or whatever but just don’t read because we have to protect the eyes, or don’t watch TV in lights off. Make this habit, you`ll save your health and achieve consistency as well. That’s what you need to do, you know the problems and you know the solutions but unless you`ll make yourself do these things, you won’t be able to eradicate these problems. An individual is best doctor and helper of him/herself. You can do it, I can do it, and anyone can do it. All what we need is will power and make yourself do it at any cost, make some promise over someone or something.
Lastly, it’s all about faith and you know this more than me. Allah is the best judge for everything that is happening around us. I fail to understand whatever is happening around me mostly but I can’t and I don’t doubt His judgement ever, if I didn’t get love or career till now then there would be some reason. If you are 26 now and still waiting for the marriage then it doesn’t means that He is not going to answer your taubah or prayers. You have to keep faith and pray!
Okay this post is totally random and totally not inter related with each other. These are different things I hear people mostly say around so I thought why not try being sounding smart and write something totally random and not making any particular sense. You may or may not agree but that`s the beauty of it, that is how we all support each other and become strength of each other. So these are some random issues, some random suggestions, in short everything is nothing but random.
Starting with a common problem which girls in our country face i.e. they want to become a professional while the family is against it and especially when it comes to a middle class family in some relative less modern cities of the country. I can only say that well first of all study is not only to get a good job. Many of them get degrees which many boys are not able to complete in cities like Lahore with many examples around me from my circles as well. It is really good that you want to earn and behave like professional but the issue is not because of you, it is about the city where there aren’t many good jobs and especially when it comes to girls too. But this doesn’t mean you wasted your study and time and energy, who knows in future it, would help you in getting a good job. There is no confirmation that you will remain here your current city forever and once you are out of there then you can do whatever you want.
Very often we see that as a person, people have degraded and disrespected themselves more than anyone else and you fall for emotional blackmailing. Let people do whatever they do and whatever they want to do and if someone is wrong and you know why he is, then he/she is. There is no reason to blame yourself for that, no matter what they say you should learn to stay firm on your stance i.e. if you know you are right, not from heart only but from brain too. And if they come up with lame excuses, just make yourself remember that you know why you are right. And think positive, it’s hard, and may be most of times I don’t think positive either but we can try.
At the end of the day no matter whatever whoever says including your family, it is your life and nobody honestly cares. Sometimes we have to take a stance for ourselves, and let’s face it in the future most of the wont be there with you, we all get settled at different places and cities and they wouldn’t be bothered then.
This is probably the toughest one, keeping the balance between the world and religion and I believe I am probably not the right guy to guide as well as I am no different from others. I have just learnt one thing that Islam is not something related to one extreme, so we can’t live our lives in one extreme, we have to keep a balance and even if we can’t, we should try to keep some balance. Trying is the best thing we can do. It’s a difficult world to live in and Allah would know that at least we tried but I repeat try to keep a balance, not go to extremes. They are not allowed in Islam either.
Rest to error is human, whether its religion or world, unless we are ready to make mistakes, we can’t learn, everyone makes mistake and then asks for forgiveness. It’s okay to make mistakes, nothing wrong. If you make mistake and you are willing to learn from it in future, then it doesn’t matter. It’s fine. I make mistakes everyday which I regret I shouldn’t have made but they just happen. I hurt people who I love the most, I say so many things to them which I know I shouldn’t have said but then I try not to do it again.
And stop being in so many complexes about yourself that you don’t have any quality, you don’t fulfil your obligations, we all live in this world and everyone is like this. It’s not like that you are the only one and as you will see everyone moves on with their lives. Consistency is good and you can achieve that if you try, like if at the end of mail you decide few things and stick to them and achieve your targets it means you did achieve consistency. The world is indifferent and insincere, we all live in lies and we lie to each other all the time and even to ourselves. You want to achieve consistency, start with small targets, like you will do a walk everyday and then try to follow it no matter whatever happens. Initially you will face a lot of difficulties but eventually you`ll see small steps like these would lead you to a consistent desire for it.
And one of the reasons for constant worries and negativity is the health; try to keep your body healthy as it keeps the head healthy too. Make a diet plan and follow it no matter whatever happens. You will not only achieve good health but consistency, like if you are reading something and light goes then don’t read in dim light, lay down, sleep or whatever but just don’t read because we have to protect the eyes, or don’t watch TV in lights off. Make this habit, you`ll save your health and achieve consistency as well. That’s what you need to do, you know the problems and you know the solutions but unless you`ll make yourself do these things, you won’t be able to eradicate these problems. An individual is best doctor and helper of him/herself. You can do it, I can do it, and anyone can do it. All what we need is will power and make yourself do it at any cost, make some promise over someone or something.
Lastly, it’s all about faith and you know this more than me. Allah is the best judge for everything that is happening around us. I fail to understand whatever is happening around me mostly but I can’t and I don’t doubt His judgement ever, if I didn’t get love or career till now then there would be some reason. If you are 26 now and still waiting for the marriage then it doesn’t means that He is not going to answer your taubah or prayers. You have to keep faith and pray!
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i soooo agree with ur views ... we shud educate ourselves to discover/learn about things arund us .. but unfortunately .. most of us get the Degree to get a good job hence we fail to understand the importance of education .. and why we need to be educated.
ReplyDeleteAllaah is the Best judge of our intentions .. cuz Allaah have blessed us with so many Awesome things without asking bas we stand up for our rights .. and be Patient :]
:) Well said
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